“Love, as a reflection of the glory of God, is the ground of being, the reason for existing, and the core of the gospel. It is the most basic staple of life; yet it is nearly impossible to wrap words around love’s vastness, to describe how to be transformed by it, or to use it for the sake of another — especially in a world that hurts us regularly and often deeply…
…I am compelled to answer the question, “What does it mean to love those who harm me?”…I am faced, as you are, with transgressions of love that cry for forgiveness and the unrelenting demand of God to forgive.
But there is a struggle for most of us in forgiving those who harm us. The greater the damage, it seems, the more difficult it is to forgive. If you are a Christian, you have a redeemed, but still sinful, heart that struggles to forgive. God’s inexorable demand to forgive, to turn the other cheek, to offer one’s coat to an enemy is at times infuriating, at other times illogical, and always costly beyond right or reason.
What does it mean to love my enemy? — the one who sexually abused me; my spouse who is angry and insensitive; my friend who gossiped behind my back and damaged my reputation; my child who snarls at my offer to go for a walk; the surgeon or service station mechanic who fails to act in my best interest. The list is endless.
For every person, in every instance, either brief or interminable, cruel or civil, warm or hostile, there will be enough sin in all our relationships that forgiveness is required if they are to continue toward an end that is good. This book will discuss forgiving love — the kind that can deal with tragic and incomprehensible harm like sexual abuse, as well as the ordinary and explainable struggles, like insensitivity or impatience.”
I have a new crush: Dan Allender. (Old crush: C.S. Lewis) His books speak straight to my needs. If you have deep wounds that need healing, deeper than you ever imagined, he might be the guy to read. He’s helping me re-evaluate and learn to discern in ways I’ve barely understood.
Have you had a hard time forgiving
when the wounds have cut so deep you still feel the pain?