Holiday Funk?


Holidays can bring out the funkiness in many of us. I’m not sure what it is.

Do you remember the song, “Silver Bells?”   I think Bing Crosby sang it.

City sidewalks, busy sidewalks, dressed in holiday style,
In the air there’s a feeling of Christmas.
Children laughing, people passing, meeting smile after smile,
And on every street corner you hear…
Silver Bells…it’s Christmas time in the city…

Streams of streetlights, even stoplights, blink a bright red and green,
As the shoppers rush home with their presents.
Hear the snow crunch, see the kids munch, this is Santa’s big scene.
And above all the bustle you hear…
Silver Bells… ring-al-ling, hear them ring…soon it will be Christmas day!

The traffic!?!  Now that can do me in faster than anything.  And what’s the deal with so much traffic far away from the malls!?!  I’m not silly enough to try to shop at a mall right before the holidays, but now the traffic is creeping into my neighborhoood!  (Do not call me Scrooge!) I can’t even get my daily dose of Bueno without going into road rage over all the extra cars speeding by!

I need to move to the country, where the hustle and bustle isn’t so…so…BUSTLING!!

Can you hear the tension?  Yes.  I’m sure you can. 
And do you want to know the most ridiculous part? 
I don’t even get out that much! 
So what is this funk all about???

Many of us struggle at this time of year. We hear we should be having a marvelously merry time but, it’s not panning out that way. Possibly you’ve been hoping for the fun of the holidays; however, life didn’t get the memo and keeps plugging away with the same old problems. Maybe the future was beginning to brighten, and then, the turbulant economy came crashing through your front door.  Tragedy may have hit at some point during the year, and you realize, now, this is the first Christmas without that special loved one.  Or the past comes creeping into your thoughts and you remember those moments of holiday bliss that felt more like hell.

High expectations giving way to low realizations.

So, what do you do?

What do I do?

Well, first of all, I get honest. I recognize the pain for what it is and don’t try to stuff it. Stuffing pain only leads to more pain and eventually to an explosion. Then others get to live with your pain spewing all over them. So, please, first of all, get honest with yourself.

Then, go to God. Yes, He cares. He knows the ins and outs of every bit of your pain. He knows more about your hurts than you do. He sees the generations of hurt that may have led to the present condition within your family system. He sees it all and He has the comfort you need.

Then last, but most importantly, remember the gift He sent. It’s really not about the shoppers rushing home with their presents. It’s really not about what you are giving…or getting.  It’s about what He gave.  It’s about His gift to us.

For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son,
That whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.

~John 3:16

For the gifts and the call of God are irrevocable.
~Romans 11:29

Although you have not seen Him, you love Him;
And even though you do not see Him now, you believe in Him
And rejoice with an indescribable and glorious joy!

~1 Peter 1:8

Thanks be to God for His indescribable gift!
~2 Corinthians 9:15

If you want to know more about this gift, keep reading here and here.


14 responses »

  1. Welcome, Longing. It is hard in the middle of the funk, yet so necessary to keep our heads above the muck of despondency. Even when our circumstances appear impossible, we can still give thanks for His indescribable gift. Sounds almost like a “pat” answer but, through experience, I’ve learned it is what makes the difference.

  2. i usually have a pow wow with myself. ya know…that “SNAP OUT OF IT TAM!” type of thing. then i try not to get down on myself after that for getting bent all out of shape in the first place. isnt that called a vicious cycle? 😉

    love you sis!

  3. (I am on a different computer, that is why my avartar isn’t appearing… I didn’t feel like signing in to WP.)

    Ok, so I am really hoping you are feeling better and that you are able to enjoy the holidays. Your prescription is wonderful. Amen.

    Merry Christmas Eve!

  4. Our seasons are like the World’s – they come and they go – only not quite so regularly. Let them come but let them pass also and do not ‘dwell’.

    Find something new to delve into that holds a ‘new’ Glory to God – it can’t hurt, right?

    And if it lies within you and your family right now… Have a Merry and Peaceful Christmas Sis!

    But don’t stress if that doesn’t quite ‘fit’ you this season – OK? 🙂



  5. Yes, Tam, and I know that vicious cycle all too well. 😕

    Glad you like the prescription, Angie. It does work. As for feeling better, well, you know, this is the first holiday that I have NOT been able to help out. It’s quite amazing to see how capable everyone else in the house can be. They’ve done EVERYTHING and almost to my specifications. 😳 🙂

    Thank you for the encouragement, Love. I’m trying not to stress too much. My family is amazing! I think they’ve taken notes throughout the year, and all is coming together nicely. 🙂

    I understand, Burton. Don’t expect too much from yourself. Just BE. I love you SO MUCH!!! KNOW IT!! Praying for you and yours all. the. time.


  6. I was struggling this year until yesterday.. I read Luke 2:11 Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ[a] the Lord.

    And I broke out…

    Merry Christmas sister..

    All the love and peace of Christ.

  7. This year has been more stressful than any other year before. And why?? I really do not know. Honestly. It is forcing me to evaluate the holidays and Christmas specifically in light of how much stress is possible (which most people experience) and figure out strategic points of ‘stressifying’ and ‘destressifying’ for future years. Remembering the REASON for this season, is what it all comes down to. Because the Reason … didn’t and doesn’t stress out.

  8. I’m not sure why it has to be so stressful, Sparkle. I guess it’s because we buy into all the materialism and hype. Sometimes it’s from having too many irons in the fire. I do best with quiet. Tonight we did sing Christmas carols at my sister’s. That was good. 🙂 Kept our minds on The Reason and created some great memories for us all.

    ♥ U, Annie.

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